A Marriage is NOT Intended to Run Its Course
We feel compelled to talk about something that we have seen this week that we can’t get out of our head.
A well known couple made the announcement that they are ending their marriage. The husband explained that their marriage “had run its course.” I need to remind everyone that the design of marriage was NEVER intended to RUN ITS COURSE. It is not a sickness that enters the body and runs it course, and then you are back to health. It is not a battery that runs its course and now it’s dead and the item doesn’t work anymore. It is not a car that you have had for 22 years that runs its course. IT IS A MARRIAGE. A marriage that involved a wedding where the couple said “Until death do we part”, not “until it runs it course”.
We want to challenge everyone that is married to remember the vows you said on your wedding day. Whether it was yesterday, a year ago, 5 years ago, 15 years ago, 30 years ago, 50 years ago, etc. You stand up on your wedding day, and you say these vows:
“In sickness and in health.”
“For richer, for poorer.”
“For better, for worse.”
“Until death do we part.”
NOT, until quarantine makes us sick of each other.
NOT, until the pandemic destroys our financial security.
NOT, until we don’t know each other anymore because we are both consumed with our careers.
Guys…we get it. The season we are currently living in is NOT the easiest season. Personally, we have been living in a season of “when it rains, it pours.” We have had one hard circumstance after another that have left us weary, disappointed and sad. But we are committed to each other. We don’t have the answers to some of our hard questions. We don’t always like each other and sometimes we say things we shouldn’t and have to ask for forgiveness. We don’t know what challenges still await us the rest of this year, but we do know what we said in 2006. We do remember our vows and the commitment we made to each other. And that my friend, DOES NOT RUN ITS COURSE.
We want to encourage you and challenge you. DON’T GIVE UP. Don’t walk out when things get hard. Don’t call it quits. Don’t believe the lie that marriage runs it course.
Seek help. See a counselor. Forgive. Pray. Be honest. Do the work. Do whatever it takes to stay together. One thing the world needs more than ever are strong, committed marriages. A marriage that is a covenant relationship that was designed to only be separated by death. Not when it runs its course.
(We would like to pause and take a moment and be mindful that there are abusive situations and extremely difficult circumstances that lead to a divorce. If you have gotten a divorce, this is not a judgmental post towards you. There is grace and redemption and hope.)